finding lost emails

I was recently going thru my emails, and discovered Ron's very last communication to me. Since some time has passed and I am now looking at it with fresh eyes, it kinda scares me that I was matched with this person. We simply do not share anywhere near the same view of life, aside from the other "issues" that quickly arose.  None of these words reflect the optimistic, generous person represented on his profile.  Of course, I have to allow for the possibility that what he writes here does NOT reflect his true beliefs (for whatever reason).   I never answered this email--thought it best to get as much distance as quickly as possible.     

Had I resurrected my "rescuer, saviour, saver, nurse, fixer" pattern and permitted it any leash, the path could have led to some very strange and unhealthy places.  OMG!  I AM learning from my mistakes!  could this be a sign of....brace yourself... maturity????   Later, gators!  :)

T,
      Having been educated as a social psychologist, I've been thinking a lot since the eHarmony blow up and your goodbye message.  It seems to me that love, tenderness, compassion, nurturance, sharing, and relating are some of the most vital of human emotions and behaviors.  Without them life is empty even if we are in the best of health and have the most comfortable of homes and impressive bank accounts.  Yet we live in a society that devalues them and makes them suspect.
If you love, you are considered naïve.  If happy, you are considered shallow and frivolous.  If generous and altruistic, you are suspected of ulterior motives.  If nurturing, you’re seen as possibly exploitive and suspect.  If forgiving, you are considered weak.  If trusting, you are considered a fool.  And if you try to do all these things, people are sure you are a phony and possibly dangerous.
It is this self-defeating attitude that has helped to breed a society of detached, noncommitted people too proud and sophisticated to admit their isolation and unhappiness and too fearful to risk doing anything about it.
Yet there is considerable scientific data that proves relationships do matter, that intimacy is necessary to a satisfying and productive life, that a loving touch and a genuine laugh can heal, and that positive relating is conducive to physical, emotional, and psychological well being.

            In short, to be happy, well, and sane, we all need love, T, even those of us with baggage and battle scars. Good luck in finding the perfect relationship partner.