Oh, well, OK then, no problem....
Ron DID respond to my "adieu" note. 'magine that.
I first discovered my eHarmony cancellation yesterday morning when I tried to log on to my account. So I immediately e-mailed eHarmony asking for a correction if it was done in error or an explanation. What I got in answer was that my subscription had been cancelled, my money had been recredited to my credit card, and that eHarmony has a policy of never revealing the reason for a cancellation. So I can only speculate why they chose to do that. Maybe; I'm certainly in no position to dispute that....
All that I have communicated to eHarmony and to you has been the truth. My profile, photo, identity, and age have all been accurate. I have serious doubts about that, since you presented conflicting info to me & then wouldn't answer direct questions about it. And all that I have written specifically to you has been a true depiction of who I really am, how I think, value, and believe. Even scarier. Further, like you, I too am a parent and grandparent. wow, that's REALLY fascinating, because I didn't even know I'm a parent or grandparent. Other than to the 4-legged & feathered ones. And we didn't ever discuss them.
However, it is also true that I had not yet told you about my carrying a huge load of baggage going all the way back to 27 years ago when I was embroiled in a malicious divorce and child custody battle with my ex-wife, who described herself as a “militant, lesbian, feminist, witch, and gender warrior” governed only by a pragmatic morality that allowed her to say or do anything that worked best to achieve her own vindictive ends regardless whom she hurt in the process--including my children. I chose to protect them with my own life and therefore took the brunt of her attack and its horrible consequences. ooookay, now. that's ONE side of the story...and is that how she described herself, or how you did?? ....27 yrs ago, huh? Sounds like there's still a lot of anger close to the surface.
All my friends and family know all my baggage.That “baggage” is largely responsible for the kind, considerate, and empathetic aspect of my personality that you have responded to. HUNH??? That's more than a little presumptuous. I have personally known great pain, loss, grief, heartache, abject despair, and betrayal. "abject despair?" drama queen? victim? or living in your own novel?? Because of that I am highly sensitive to the feelings of others. People who have endured what I have come out of the experience either hopelessly embittered, morosely withdrawn, or more lovingly and sensitively connected to others. I am in the last category. Tell it however you want, brother, it's your script! (I'm not being a smartass there -- we each choose our own script & what part we play & how we read it; I've "been there & done that" with the anger, the victimhood, the martyred saint -- guess it was fun to play for a while or I wouldn't have done it). I just don't need to watch the play, or be in it.
However, I value my privacy and don’t indiscriminately share my baggage. Besides it is very painful to do so because it forces me to mentally relive it. So even on a site like eHarmony I don’t hang all that information out front. Forgive me, but I highly doubt that the baggage you have just unloaded on me has ANY REMOTE bearing on eHarmony's decision to dump you. This is total avoidance of the real issue(s) of misrepresenting yourself. Unless a positive connection develops, I feel it is no one’s business. You and I were just getting to that point. Au contraire, frere, we were getting farther & farther from that point with each paragraph! But I will respect your decision to terminate contact. You seem to have a very light hearted spirit and are probably a lot of fun to spend time with. So I hear. You have my e-mail address. Should you wish to communicate further in the future, please don't hesitate to write. I'll pass, thank you! My head is still reeling with how quickly someone who seemed feet-on-the-ground solid & stable, intelligent, intuitive, rational, completely down-to-earth guy-next-door morphed before my eyes into a car-contents obsessed, Danielle Steele-reading, show-tunes-loving, way-too-fast-moving person living in his own romance novel, launching monologues snatched from a grab-bag of god-knows-what.
What did I say in "Re-directing??" That my present focus is on my home projects; my running program; my friends and my job. Thank you, god, for this little episode so I can :put a period at the end of that sentence," and not be tempted back into dating land for a while. And thank you, ron, for giving us laughs, gasps, groans & heebie-jeebies at your expense. What a marvelously entertaining way to wrap things up with eHarmony and my dating focus!! Damn, life is good! (and I get to look forward to witnessing a fascinating friend step out of their comfort zone, stretch themselves and make their acting debut this weekend -- what inspiration!) TYG, over & over again!! XXOO
