re-directing

Which is fine.   I had some interesting experiences and learned some stuff.    That's  good.

Last night I decided to cancel my membership with eharmony.  Actually, after talking with the helpful, kind, informed customer service rep (really, no shit!), we've put my account on hold, which means I can reactivate it at any time without starting from scratch.  'kay.   what's to lose?

My focus has been re-directed to my home projects which had been on hold (also ready to reactivate at any time without starting from scratch), going into training, and spending more time with friends.  

Training?  The goal for this year is to steadily & carefully follow a program to run a marathon next Jan/Feb.   The first step is a 5K in March.  I'm in the 2nd week of training, and am very pleased.  The program I'm following (which I amended, of course, just like any recipe that comes into my hands -- well, because, like, I'm a Virgo, and I just simply know what's better) has shown me that I was really coddling myself with my walks.  Not strolls; sturdy, fast walks.  I was sweating and doing close to 2 1/2 miles and not having injuries, so I thought I was doing good by the exercise.  This walk/jog/walk/jog program is terrific!    I haven't felt sore, although I CAN feel a difference.  My body is loving this!  Having spiffy new Asics doesn't hurt, either.  (Thank you, day-after-Thanksgiving-sale-at-Sports-Authority-standing-in-the-dark-at-5-am-listening-to-my-friend-gripe-about-being-awake.... no one forced you, bitch; you asked to come with me...where the hell's my coffee....)      

Right before I stopped eharmony, I did establish contact with Ron.  He's a writer.  Who posted a picture that seems to be out of date.  Like maybe by 20 years?  Yeah.  I'm gonna ask for an updated pic right away.  He sounds interesting, self-aware and content.  I look forward to getting to know him better, and am perfectly content with my life & goals as they are.  The dating events of last year were another growth stage, and the end result was that I am more confident and secure than ever in who I am and the life I've created.  Over the holidays, I invited guy friends to attend parties/dinners with me and I had a blast.  There are so many little differences when your companion is already a friend, and securely in Friend status.  I didn't want to say 'just'  friend, because there is no diminishing the importance of friends.  I love my friends.  I am so blessed.